Fear is your friend

Most people live their lives in the avoidance of fear.

Consider the people in your life who you truly admire. These people live with an element of fear and discomfort in their lives. Yet they continue to do what they need to do while living with this fear… They don’t let fear stop them from giving their gifts. They become acquainted with fear, living in touch with it, they cultivate a relationship of mutual understanding.

Fear is the edge of you.

Fear is your closest ally, if you allow it to be.

Fear lets you know that you are growing, living, and giving fully.

If you do not feel fear while living by allowing it to be part of you, then you are becoming fear itself. Fear is always there. Your fear represents the boundaries of you.

If you feel up to the challenge of living fully…
Become intimate with your fear. Feel it. Allow it to show you where the boundaries of you are in order that you can break through them and give the gifts that you incarnate into this world, fully.  In this way, you can practice love despite your fear. Helping others to do the same will be a side effect of this.

Notice what gifts you want to give to this world, and consider why you don’t give them fully. Truly enquire as to where the root of this cause is. Feel it. If you didn’t let fear stop you, what would you want to do?

Most importantly however… Do it because of love. And do it for love. Because why do you do anything really?


Ben

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How People Reinforce their Own Fears.

So many people start there sentences with, “It’s hard”. My response is often a kind of sigh/hands on face gesture.

The thing is, I often catching myself saying this. And I really have to just give myself little slap and say, ‘Stop being a little whiny wet flannel’.

Mate… Life is hard. Things are hard. If they weren’t everyone would be doing them.

The key to overcoming adversity and breaking through the ‘it’s hard’ barrier is to take the challenge, stand up, and flipping do it.

The mantras of ‘it’s hard’, and ‘I don’t know’; mental self chatter to this degree reinforce and affirm your fears. They take you further away from your goal.

Support yourself! Why wouldn’t someone turn his own self chatter into a supportive mechanism?! …Because you can! It’s just a matter of conditioning you to empower yourself. Check out my post on incantations if you want to take your fear and turn it into a strength.

As a man that I admired once told me, when I was mucking about and procrastinating out of fear:

“Why not? you’ve got nothing to lose mate…”


-Ben

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The Colours

Fear,

Lingers in the heart,

Always eating at the colours.

One learns to bear it,

Two they learn to suffer,

Three they learn to Love.

One can’t fill an empty heart with words.

Fire and candle sticks

Burn out when unattended,

And the dialectical frown of the introvert

Doesn’t understand why

Because it can’t.

It’s closed.

-Ben

Photograph by lalesh aldarwish

The Fear

Bright lights

Late nights

no reason

for former or latter

or the eyes

becoming watched

and unable to see

all in order to alleviate

The Fear.

 

The colour was stolen

by a grey thief,

an ogre under burned bridges

in shadows

 

A vacuum makes

the mind jump up and down,

though the dark nothing knows the body in it’s limpness

and tells why the blue waters turned a stagnant green,

why algae and fungus

rid the lily pads of youth,

becoming the green

on that it depended

 

To fall

or not to fall

 

The itch grows

It knaws slowly under the skin

Sapping at the life blood

 

It’s felt in the flowers and the trees

and the birds and the bees

and the insects

 

 

Once, layed on a soft pillow of green spires

a break to pass

while staring up at the sky,

the time to be filled

is so far away

still

just sleep…

 

Then seeing the original eye

in a cluster of cloud

in the shape of a lotus flower

 

Understanding a sight

A connection

The heart pumped oxygen into the belly of the wilder-beast

 

that Breathing strength through the ascension

of the paths of the mountain

and Listening

With unflinching peace,

beguiled leaves

to fall,

to be reborn.

 

 

-Ben