The Depth of Your Primary Focus is Equal to Your Depth of Presence.

Some people just seem to be good at everything. They just put their hand to something, and they just, seemingly by osmosis, excel and assimilate their way into the higher echelons of their chosen field. They seem to give off a certain aura.

Other people are the opposite. Whatever they do, it’s not quite the same. They can never quite reach that level of detail, that level of skill, that level of charisma that the other guy does without even trying.

The truth is, you can tell where people’s minds are just by looking at them. The depth of a persons presence is equal to the depth of his primary focus.


To tell whether somebody has great depths to them, whether they have their eye on a purpose larger than themselves, only takes a glance. You can tell whether they are shakeable, or whether they are unflappable in their commitment and dedication to their task. You can tell whether it would take merely a few words to distract or break the person. For someone that has great depths to them radiates the energy of a higher purpose, they radiate trustability and focus.

Most people fall into the second category. They struggle just to ‘do’ things in the same way that the naturals do.. They do not breeze through the days all the while exuding charisma. Their eyes are not on the prize. They are too easy to shake off of their path. They do not exude the confidence of a man/woman that knows where he stands. Their eyes are on the next activity, the next fix.

Most men spend their day thinking about sex. Obviously there is nothing wrong with this, however consider: The steady gaze of a man who has spent all day focusing is life around sex, versus a man who has spent his day focusing on organising his life around the fulfilment of his highest purpose…

For the man who has his eyes on his highest purpose all of these other things in life are trivialities. Trivialities that yes, he can still enjoy, but they do not amount to much meaning for him. They are little side games. And so his body dances with his mind, and he easily converses with women, and he easily dribbles the ball into the goal. And if he doesn’t he isn’t really flapped, he just picks himself up and carries on, it’s just a game.

If you want to be a person of integrity. Someone that exudes depth and the wisdom of knowing your own death. Then you must right NOW find your deepest purpose, for THIS MOMENT. It doesn’t start later, tomorrow, whatever, you’ve got excuses, you could be in a wheel chair; if you have a now, you have a purpose in that now: this is what you are looking for.

The now is in constant flux, and you purpose changes with it. In order to exude presence and integrity, one has to go deeper. One has to go beyond the layers of superficiality of social status and opinion, and go inward into that which makes him tick; his purpose. If he can find this, if he can create a vision for himself based on his purpose, and if he can train himself to constantly be giving his fullest give in THAT MOMENT, then he will be unshakeable, because superficialities will be unable to rock him off of his path, it is deeper than can be touched and shaken, and his integrity will not allow it to be, because he is fixed in time with his presence, and like time itself, it cannot be touched, whatever you may do the objects of time.


So… Right now. Ask yourself… What is your purpose? Are you fearful?

If you were to die now, would you die in the fullest giving of your gift, or would you die with yet things that you would have done if you had known? Would you die for your purpose?

“The biggest tragedy is not that we aim high and don’t achieve it, it’s if we aim low and do.” -David Deida


-Ben

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Be a Madman for Your Purpose.

All of us should give our gifts in this lifetime. This is it; are you seizing the moment? Do you have FIRE in your belly? Are you passionate about your life and your purpose?

What is your meaning?

We are all here to be challenged… can you grow in the face of adversity? This is the game.

Most people don’t live in alignment, and don’t give their utmost gifts because they are scared. Fear ties them down. And on your inspired journey, you will feel fear. To deny yourself of fear is to deny yourself of your purpose.

If you are to give your gifts, then you must feel your fear and do it anyway. You must meet your fears with equal energy and kiss them, look them in the eye, punch them in the face if need be! Then you continue onwards towards your purpose, fulfilling your meaning…

This is to ‘Eat your Shadows’. Through eating your shadows, you become twice the Man or Woman that you once were. And it was already inside of you.

You’ve gotta feel it baby. Enjoy the challenge. When you know why, it becomes a play, and I am challenging you now. If you do not know what it is, then Find your purpose.

Find it inside of YOU.

You do not need a purpose that is going to be your be all and end all purpose, but you need a purpose for now. If you know something that makes you passionate, but it doesn’t seem to be right when you think about it. Look: THAT is your purpose now. Your purpose may change over time. To quote Shrek “purposes are like onions, they have layers.”  The thing that excites you, that fills you with energy; you must give 100% to this. The rest will unravel and reveal itself to you over time throughout this process, layer by layer and each one will be more fulfilling, and fill you more and more with purpose.


People of integrity live in alignment with their life’s purpose.

If you are to be fulfilled in your purpose. You must live in alignment with your purpose. Otherwise you are sacrificing your integrity.

If you are to live in alignment with your life’s purpose, you must be constantly asking yourself: “Is what I am doing now contributing to me giving my gifts in this world? Is it contributing to the fulfilment of my life’s purpose?”.

If you cannot answer these questions with a clear “yes” then you are probably sacrificing your some of your integrity, because it is probably not in alignment with your purpose.

Those of us who are giving our gifts know that in the giving of your gifts, every single moment is the feeling of the fulfilment in life, in and of itself. These are the same people who forget to eat because they are so absorbed with there purpose, it becomes them, they become fuelled with the desire to make change, to make their mark, to penetrate the world with their legacy.

You know someone in your life who is doing something that you used to do. You might have even just seen them in the street as you were passing by, or they might be a close family member or a lover. They are doing something that you did that was to your detriment. And you see their pain under the surface, under the mask of rock or porcelain smiles.

You want to tell them and show them that this isn’t the way. You feel sorry for them, but you know that you can’t tell them to change. You can’t tell them to do things differently, because you know where they are coming from. You want to help but you feel like you can’t. This is what you can do:

BE the change. Be an example of a better way. Be a madman for your purpose. Show them that they are not alone; because we are all mad for that which is closest to our heart. Show people that they can be the person that they truly want to be, and that really, they truly are this person; if only they say yes to life and all it’s pain and pleasures.

If you don’t do it for you, do it for them.

And just remember, that same pain that caused you so much grief, it made you the person that you are today. It is the pleasure in your heart when you see something beautiful. It is the love in your smile, it is the joy and excitement in your stomach.

Live in alignment with your purpose. Give your gift…

Ponder this:

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

-Ben

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Last Ralph Waldo Emerson quote for a while… I promise… *wink*