Book of the Day #7: The Rational Male

IMG_0545A phenomenal book written by ‘Rollo Tomassi’ (pseudonym). This book is mainly targeted at men, but there is something for everyone here to be learned.

The book centre’s around the idea of a positive masculinity achieved by ‘Red Pill awareness’, an idea that will be recognisable by it’s in inception in the film ‘The Matrix’.

Many men have found solace in the work of Rollo Tomassi’s 10 year in the works’ book on intersexual dynamics. For those of you who are struggling with frustrations, relationships, or lack of such; this is not one to be missed…


-Ben

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P.S. The picture features the third edition in the series: ‘The Rational Male: Positive Masculinity’. The firstly is simply ‘The Rational Male’.

 

Book of the Day #6: The Art of War

IMG_0481.jpgA book recommendation list couldn’t go all the way through without giving due reference at least one of the ancient Chinese classics.

Many of you may have heard of the Art of War, and maybe have a vague idea of what it’s about. But for those of you who don’t, here is a little description on it:

Written by Sun Tzu, an ancient Chinese general in the Ming dynasty for his army: this book contains his strategies of war, as informed by the Ancient Taoist philosophy of yin and yang (up and down, left and right ect), and the Law of Mutual arising.

This book is a treatise for those who have an enemy that will not back down. As the book states in the beginning: ‘The best way to win a war is to avoid it at all costs. However, when the enemy will not back down, you must finish it quickly and with the force of 100 boulders.’

The book covers such topics as, battle tactics, encampment, invading enemy territory, espionage, formation and much more.

Although these tactics were inferred for the generals of armies actually going to war, these tactics are surprisingly universal in their law. They touch much of the laws governing our psyche and the universe itself, drawing upon ancient taoist philosophies of balance, mutual arising, and knowledge through no-knowledge.


-Ben

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Book of the Day #4: Foundation Training

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An immensely important book by Dr Eric Goodman. Here we are educated on the importance of spinal decompression on all aspects of our health. From our breathing to our digestion to our flipping senses! In short: If you learn how to habitually decompress your spine, you will be more fit, more vital, more alive.

Much has been said about the effects of our dormant lifestyles, much of the day spent in Spinal flexion. The common fitness remedy to this would be to put your back in extension, reversing the ‘C’ curve that our couch potato lives facilitate. This is good, but only a partial solution.

Throughout our lives the spine is under constant compressive forces by gravity, and the body adapts to this in a myriad of ways, many of which cause us muscular imbalance and immense pain over time.
In order to remedy this, Dr Goodman argues, with great and conviction and testimonials, that the right way to fix this is to teach our bodies (through the practices outlined in this book) to press back against gravity. When we teach our spines to move from a lengthened, supported, expansive, anchored, and decompressed state, we create strength, stability, and most importantly space for the joints to move.

The result of this training is that the muscles around the spine that have been shortened, weakened, and often even dormant,  for so long grow longer and stronger. They begin to support the spine in this newly re-discovered decompressed state, allowing the body to press back against gravity while continuing to maintain expansiveness and room for movement.

Warning: you may gain a few inches after practicing the exercises in this book.

I can testify that the results are quite incredible.


-Ben

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Book of the Day #3: Man’s Search for Meaning

IMG_0483Dr Viktor E. Frankl is somewhat of a hero of mine. A Jewish neurologist born in 1905, Viktor Frankl was rounded up and taken to various concentration camps (including Auschwitz and other) during the Holocaust. Surviving extreme and horrible conditions beyond most people’s comprehension by the skin of his teeth, he went on to write various books and become one of the most prominent and influential psychiatrists of the 20th century. This book is his most well known.

Man’s search for meaning details Dr Frankl’s experiences throughout the war and afterward. He noticed throughout his time in the concentration camps that there seemed to be a pattern in regards to who would die and who would live. Seeing it time and time again, he realised that there was also a pattern to people’s stages of psychological deterioration. Dr Frankl went on to devise his own psychological method for treating mental health issues. He called it ‘Logotherapy’.

Google: ‘Logos, (Greek: “word,” “reason,” or “plan”) plural logoi, in Greek philosophy and theology, the divine reason implicit in the cosmos, ordering it and giving it form and meaning.’

A book that puts our world into perspective; which shows the human condition survive and learn under the worst conditions imaginable.
Fascinatingly Dr Frankl speaks of his captors not in terms of evil, but in terms of reason. He tries to understand them. This is a book to be read and re-read.

At the end of the book Dr Frankl includes an outline as to the application of Logotherapy as a psychological method. Many people will gain actionable information in this part of the book. His method shows much parallel with eastern religions, but with a western twist.

Can’t recommend this book enough.


-Ben

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Is it that can’t you do it, or is it Laziness? Living at your edge.

Is it that you really can’t do it, or is it just laziness?

The answer to this question is: Are you living at your edge? If you are not living at your edge, then straight up the answer is yes, it is laziness. Obviously first, what is an edge?!

Your edge is the edge of your abilities. It is the full amount that you can give at any given moment to the world, in order to move towards your life’s purpose.
Everyone should know there edge. Once one really knows their edge, they can honour it. Only then can you be honest about it to yourself, and to others.

Few people really know their edge. They think they know their edge. They faked it to themselves when it got hard, and over time this faking became habitual. Now they are living way inside their limits and think that they are not capable of breaking beyond this. Yet they hope that one day they can. This is a clear indicator of not living at one’s edge.

Truly, few people are even willing to experiment with living at their edge for just a few days. THIS is why most people are shrinking or growing at a sub-optimal capacity. A closed mind is a shrinking mind.

Your edge is found in the now. At any given moment. Are you doing all that you can do now to give your gifts right in this moment? If the answer is no, then you are not at your edge. That’s fine! No biggie. Not everyone’s up to this kind of challenge. Some people just want to enjoy their lives and be good at what they do… But if you want to be great, then you have got to find your edge man!

Are you rationalising why you can’t do it? Or are you thinking about what the best thing to do would be in a world without fear? This is the difference between the coward and the warrior. A disabled man with mental health difficulties can be more of a warrior than the rich corporate banker. Your edge is only relative to your own potential in the now. A warrior always lives at his edge. A warrior goes to battle because he knows that it is his purpose to give his gifts and protect his people.

If you are living at your edge, if you are a warrior, then you will know that living at your edge involves taking care of yourself in order that you can operate at your highest capacity. There is no point grinding and living at your edge, doing everything that you can do in order to give your gifts to the world if you are only going to burn out in a week’s time! This is not the way to become the strongest you.
The truth is that looking after yourself takes effort.

The trap that most people that begin on their journey towards their own edges fall into the trap of only grinding and working, or even only looking after yourself, because both require equal discipline and effort! I see this all the time.

To do both… now that is a challenge for the individual willing to life their life to the full. To make themselves as great as they can be. To give their flipping gifts fully – No gift left un-given. And this means that you have to cultivate you, otherwise you will run out of life in you. This is not ideal for anyone.

This is basic Yin and Yang stuff. There is a time for work, and a time for rest. Balance is key.

So if you do have a clear vision as to what you want, and are truly willing to condition yourself to give your fullest gifts in the moment, both sides of the spectrum will become clear. You will acquire an enhanced ability to discern. Right from wrong, worth from un-worth, strength from weakness.

You are capable of so much more than you think. You’ve got to be willing to feel the fear, and feel the pain and do it anyway. When you have a higher purpose that is so much more important than a little sweat and tears, that challenge is what makes it so exciting. And in that moment, that’s what makes you great.

Once you know your edge, if you want to be a truly exeptional individual, then you should live just beyond your edge… try it. Watch the reality of your existence expand every day until you begin to realise your true potential.

“And so you touch this limit, something happens and you suddenly can go a little bit further. With your mind power, your determination, your instinct, and the experience as well, you can fly very high.” -Ayrton Senna 


-Ben

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Get OUT of the House!

For those of you that are having trouble reading and writing.

I speak to many people who tell me that they’d love to read, and they want to write more, but they have trouble with motivation. There are so many distractions in the house.

I can completely empathise. For a long time I felt the same way. I would get up early, get started, get started on my day, and 20 minutes later my family would be up and about, and expect my attention or be distracting me (often without meaning to). And plus, this was my safe space, my home.

The best way to counteract this ‘House distraction anxiety’ is to get out of the house.

I used to go to libraries or even park benches and grass to read and write. My favourite place however is coffee shops.

In coffee shops, nobody really cares if you sit there for hours reading and writing as long as you buy something… say a single coffee. I always have considered it an investment in my education, £2.70 a day or: a big coffee, and a productive, busy, social place in which I can sit for a few hours with my laptop (and charger) and my books. My rented portable office space in Nero’s with a bonus cappuccino chucked in for good measure.

Would you pay £2.70 a day for a couple of hours of productivity, office space, and ideas?

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest” -Benjamin Franklin


-Ben

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Photography by Afta Putta Gunawan