The Injury Portal

As much as on the surface level it absolutely sucks balls, being injured is likely to be an opportunity for you to grow. Injuries create limitations on our beings that allow us to be more creative within those confines. For me it’s been a whiplash that has lasted coming up 9 months, this meant that I could not get overly excited without hurting my neck. If I got angry I had to breathe through it, and wait it out, if I got sad I had to breathe and relax into it without curling up, it has meant that I have had to cultivate an inner strength that I did not know I had.

Any athlete that has been injured knows that it is a psychological game as much as a physical one. Letting go of those previous PR’s in order to recover is tough, having to rest completely – even tougher. It is the game of wanting so badly to get out in that game, but knowing that if you do, then it will only get worse.

Here are some tools that have helped me so far along my recovery journey:

  • Meditation – How you feel isn’t a reliable indicator of your health. Behaviour and expression are much more reliable benchmarks to work from. If you can relax and observe these, then not only will you be able calm the body by calming the mind (decreasing your likely-hood of re-injury, and increasing your recovery speed), but you will be able to get an idea as to the sensible and mindful limits that your body is comfortable operating in at that moment in time, regardless of how you are ‘feeling.’
  • Sleep – This is when you are truly recovering, rebuilding those damaged tissues. Sleep regular hours. I try to sleep 10:30 – 7.30. But truly in your heart of hearts, you know how much sleep you perform best on.
  • Hydration – Most people are dehydrated, and hydrating yourself adequately is going to do more for your healing, psychological and physical health than you know. Soothe yourself with a glass of water or a cup of fruit tea, not coffee.
  • Do things that keep your spirits high. (but not those that overexert you or overexcite you. If you’re hoping to heal quickly without re-injuring yourself, then mindfulness is your friend here.)
  • Move – Mindful movement, and low intensity movement are going to stretch and challenge those damaged tissues. They will regenerate with time if you treat them well. Again, you know how much exercise you are best on in that moment. Treat yourself carefully, I’d recommend exercising on regular hours if possible to help psychologically. (best to see a specific sports therapist of your choosing for this one depending on your injury for the specific movements).

An injury is a portal for you to discover new strength in other areas of your life. Your inner strength might have needed an upgrade or a path correction. Treat your injuries like reminders to stay conscious.


-Ben

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Say it, Live it. Living your word.

Most of us make promises at some point or another about things that we are going to do, books that we are going to read, programs that we are going to destroy. Some of us start, a few of us get halfway through, but how many of us finish what we say we are going to do regardless of the discomfort involved in the process.

Discomfort isn’t ideal, unless you realise that discomfort is the process of change. The discomfort is the resonance of the dissonance between where you are now and what you need to be in order to function on that level.

Find people who are on your wavelength. Those who relish in the challenges that they set you. Set them challenges in return, and hold them accountable for that which they commit themselves to, and vice versa. Relish the challenges that they set you.

Finding ways to learn to love the challenges that face us is part of growing into strength.
The first step towards doing this is to condition yourself to stick to your word… However seemingly insignificant at the time, they all add up.

I quote this a lot, but it’s because it is great! Here’s a lovely quote by Lao Tzu that sums is up better than I possibly could:

‘Watch your thoughts, they become your words,
Watch your words, they become your actions,
Watch your actions, they become your character,
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.’


Ben

Much love folks. x

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Photography by Aleksandr Slovodianyk

I set myself a challenge to read 13 books in one month. Here’s the post on instagram in case you’re interested.

Listen to your body

Most of us realise by now that the body and mind are connected. They are reflections of each-others state. If the body is hunched over and the head looking up towards the horizon at all times, you’re going to feel quite ‘deflated’. If you are constantly thinking all of the time, then your body’s attitude is going to reflect this with a disconnect from the legs, and an ungrounded nervous energy.

Meditations of all kinds help us to observe these phenomena. In the thick of it, it is hard to realise one’s own dis-ease.

Through meditations we can observe the thoughts that are arising… Our spirit’s ‘Calling’ if you will. Through these realisations we can align our practices to reflect these callings in the physical world, the world of the body.
The same can be said of physical meditations. Mindful stretching and Yogic methods help us to connect with the callings of the body, in order that we can align ourselves literally to a more subtle and efficient degree.

Both meditations when practiced become extremely gratifying, and even beautiful. Healing one’s own uneasiness is often only a practice of listening, and then right action presents itself naturally.

Fear of stopping is largely what gets in the way. Stopping the thought process where often most of us spend the vast majority of our time means a death of that place. Yet it is this place that is causing us to disconnect from our natural states.
In order to get back in touch with that from which we have separated ourselves, we must listen carefully.

When one begins to listen: Patterns of thought emerge. Patterns of feeling are realised, and instinct begins to realign itself with its natural state.

If lost… Watch the mind. Listen to the spirit.
If unfeeling… Listen to the body.

Most of all trust what arises. Ones own path does not lie, and will make itself heard eventually, regardless.

What arises does so from stillness, and it is here from which we can see most clearly.


-Ben

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Fear is your friend

Most people live their lives in the avoidance of fear.

Consider the people in your life who you truly admire. These people live with an element of fear and discomfort in their lives. Yet they continue to do what they need to do while living with this fear… They don’t let fear stop them from giving their gifts. They become acquainted with fear, living in touch with it, they cultivate a relationship of mutual understanding.

Fear is the edge of you.

Fear is your closest ally, if you allow it to be.

Fear lets you know that you are growing, living, and giving fully.

If you do not feel fear while living by allowing it to be part of you, then you are becoming fear itself. Fear is always there. Your fear represents the boundaries of you.

If you feel up to the challenge of living fully…
Become intimate with your fear. Feel it. Allow it to show you where the boundaries of you are in order that you can break through them and give the gifts that you incarnate into this world, fully.  In this way, you can practice love despite your fear. Helping others to do the same will be a side effect of this.

Notice what gifts you want to give to this world, and consider why you don’t give them fully. Truly enquire as to where the root of this cause is. Feel it. If you didn’t let fear stop you, what would you want to do?

Most importantly however… Do it because of love. And do it for love. Because why do you do anything really?


Ben

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Reading: The guidance of an older brother

A perspective on the art of reading

Reading is about possibility. Reading is about looking at a set of things that might happen to you so that you know what to expect when it does. A book says, ‘If you take a left and follow the river, there might be a cliff side. Here’s how you might go about getting down it.’

Reading is merely about identifying what to expect, and then bringing that foresight into the world of experience subtly.

A common fear is that if you read, it will take the magic out of the discovery. This is a false fear. Reading brings another perspective to the discovery. There is the feeling of discovery, which is magical. There is the unknown. And there is what you were expecting to experience. These three will never truly match up completely. If seemingly they do, then it is not difficult to add the magic back in. Anyone who has ever had a conversation in ‘gibberish’ with someone knows this.*

Going into the new year, consider reading as a mentorship from an older sibling: ‘This is what I’ve seen. This is what you might expect to see. This is how you might go about dealing with it. Take it or leave it!’


-Ben

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*If you don’t know this, then try it: Have a conversation with someone in gibberish, not thinking about the words, no filtering, just simply saying whatever comes to your head. Let the gibberish speak for you. The conversation topic can be about whatever you want. It will change your perspective on interaction.

Book of the Day #7: The Rational Male

IMG_0545A phenomenal book written by ‘Rollo Tomassi’ (pseudonym). This book is mainly targeted at men, but there is something for everyone here to be learned.

The book centre’s around the idea of a positive masculinity achieved by ‘Red Pill awareness’, an idea that will be recognisable by it’s in inception in the film ‘The Matrix’.

Many men have found solace in the work of Rollo Tomassi’s 10 year in the works’ book on intersexual dynamics. For those of you who are struggling with frustrations, relationships, or lack of such; this is not one to be missed…


-Ben

Watch out for the next book of the day. If you liked this, then check out the last book recommendation!

P.S. The picture features the third edition in the series: ‘The Rational Male: Positive Masculinity’. The firstly is simply ‘The Rational Male’.