Learning from the Pain in our lives.

Most people don’t learn from the problems that come up in their lives. They deal with one problem at a time and expect not another to come, thinking that they are safe. Then they go back to doing what they were doing before.

If you want to become a conqueror of your own life, you need to look at every issue that comes up in your life as a creative problem. A creative problem that is here to teach you to grow.

My brother broke his collar bone recently when he fell playing football. He couldn’t understand why. He is a great footballer and all around sportsman, and plays hard and like an athlete. Then when he is not he is in front of his xbox for hours on end, living off a diet of mainly pizza, brioche, chocolate, and coke.

It healed then he broke it again… !?

This isn’t a coincidence. Seemingly spontaneous events that come up in your life, creative and destructive, are there to send you a message. They are there to tell you what’s up. To tell you to live more holistically, or to tell you that you are going in the wrong direction.

When you listen to the messages, you look back and the dots do connect.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well worn path; and that will make all the difference.” – Steve Jobs


-Ben

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“I don’t know what to do…” What you should do:

How to do more than one thing and continue to make progress.

Most people want to focus on the one thing, only there isn’t one thing, and they are torn between two or more things, but they have to make a decision.

What is this one thing?

It would be useful to understand that what we focus on massively effects our actions, and the outcomes of those actions.

In my experience, there is one thing. It’s just not what you think it is. The one thing is the reason behind the art… the why. Why do you really make music? Is it the music you love, or the way it makes you feel when you touch people deeply?
Do you love health and fitness really, is that why you do it? Or is it that you feel the deep drive to empower people, and fitness is one of the ways of you doing that?

THE WHY. It is the deeper meaning from which all of the rest springs. Don’t mistake the forest for the trees.

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat.
‘I don’t much care where -‘ said Alice.
‘Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,’ said the Cat.
‘- so long as I get SOMEWHERE,’ Alice added as an explanation.
‘Oh, you’re sure to do that,’ said the Cat, ‘if you only walk long enough.” – Lewis Carroll (Alice in Wonderland)


-Ben

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The Benefits of Collaborating with other Artists

To collaborate with people is sometimes quite a scary prospect. One is revealed in all of their glory and their downfalls. Yet this is why it is such a valuable process.

The process of a shared practice gives you the opportunity to emotionally involve yourself in your growth. You become motivated to be better, and you grow (simply by the process of assimilation).

EVEN if you are a guitar player, for instance,  jamming with a piano player: You will learn about the piano players process, musical knowledge, repertoire, strengths, shortcomings, the list goes on… This knowledge that you have gathered through shared practice is actionable and invaluable to you a person, and as an artist. This analogy is applies to every walk of life.

Just make sure that you are either doing this in your leisure time, OR that it is directly contributing to your primary goal/purpose. Otherwise you may find yourself learning about the bassoon while you’re trying to get your rock album down… that could be a waste of time.

Be willing to suck. You won’t suck for long.

“If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself.” —Henry Ford

Also… couldn’t leave this out:

“If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” —Isaac Newton


-Ben

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Play to Grow

Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how.
Once you know the what, the reason, the rest comes.

Sometimes you have to play go grow.
Sometimes you have to give to go
Further than you could on your own.
Nobody knows,
They just put one foot in front of the other.
One step at a time
One reason that’s mine
One life on the line
For greater than ‘something’,
Specifically loving,
And giving the gift
That you fell in love with

…even if you don’t know it…


-Ben

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Off For Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

A beautiful time of year in which everyone celebrates with love and joy. A time for selfless giving and rememberance of Jesus Christ.

‘… One can wish!’ Said the boy as he took a bite out of a mince pie and tore open the wrapping paper of a present.

In all seriousness, I’m going to be out on the family rounds doing various christmas gatherings (I believe that I have 5 in the calender starting tomorrow) and so won’t be posting for at least the next 3 days.

If I manage not pass out from food exhaustion then I will be very much looking forward to sharing more content soon.

Wishing everyone a lovely few days! Especially those of you who don’t have many to spend it with, or whom are struggling in the home environment. Stay Strong. x

 

Here’s a quote to make this post worth your read. I stumbled upon it recently while reading, and although seemingly simple and obvious, it has stuck with me as something to keep in mind ever since:

‘You can face a fact only in the present and if you never allow it to be present because you are always escaping from it, you can never face it, and because we have cultivated a whole network of escapes we are caught in the habit of escape.’ -Krishnamurti [Freedom from the Known]

-Ben

 

The Truth

I wander streets in the night, I do. I practice kung fu under the street lights at the end of a dark road at quarter to 2.

Sometimes I thought I had it all figured out.

Swivelling between knowing and unknowing the point of the universe and all of its problems.

It’s a feeling and it comes up deep from my balls and my gut, and my head opens as if it was the same as everything else all along.

Talking about it sometimes, people think I’ve gone crazy. I feel it never occurred to them that I’ve seen something that possibly they haven’t.

It’s true that it’s selfish, but I struggle to see where else I can start other than from the self.

Or maybe the cork popped up in the old brain and I’m now a walking liability.

I don’t know.

I think about words sometimes. Trying to figure out why and where from. My need for insecurity rearing its little nose.

Liability: The ability to lie.

Sometimes I feel like I want to die. It sinks quickly from the high of fullness, down to the low of lost.

I miss the old days that never were, and I miss the opportunity for a life in a fantasy kingdom imagined by writers in a writing room.

I sometimes feel like a ripple a pond. Sometimes I feel like a grain of sand at the bottom of an ocean.

The way the world is looking scares me and I don’t know what to do about it… Is it the feeling or the world?

I love myself, and I hate myself too.

And I get confused about who ‘myself’ is every day.

My back aches from the weary neglect of hours at gyms in the night. And the sweat of anxiety linger as scars to today.i

It’s easy to forget that there is nothing to lose in telling the truth.

-Ben