Is it that can’t you do it, or is it Laziness? Living at your edge.

Is it that you really can’t do it, or is it just laziness?

The answer to this question is: Are you living at your edge? If you are not living at your edge, then straight up the answer is yes, it is laziness. Obviously first, what is an edge?!

Your edge is the edge of your abilities. It is the full amount that you can give at any given moment to the world, in order to move towards your life’s purpose.
Everyone should know there edge. Once one really knows their edge, they can honour it. Only then can you be honest about it to yourself, and to others.

Few people really know their edge. They think they know their edge. They faked it to themselves when it got hard, and over time this faking became habitual. Now they are living way inside their limits and think that they are not capable of breaking beyond this. Yet they hope that one day they can. This is a clear indicator of not living at one’s edge.

Truly, few people are even willing to experiment with living at their edge for just a few days. THIS is why most people are shrinking or growing at a sub-optimal capacity. A closed mind is a shrinking mind.

Your edge is found in the now. At any given moment. Are you doing all that you can do now to give your gifts right in this moment? If the answer is no, then you are not at your edge. That’s fine! No biggie. Not everyone’s up to this kind of challenge. Some people just want to enjoy their lives and be good at what they do… But if you want to be great, then you have got to find your edge man!

Are you rationalising why you can’t do it? Or are you thinking about what the best thing to do would be in a world without fear? This is the difference between the coward and the warrior. A disabled man with mental health difficulties can be more of a warrior than the rich corporate banker. Your edge is only relative to your own potential in the now. A warrior always lives at his edge. A warrior goes to battle because he knows that it is his purpose to give his gifts and protect his people.

If you are living at your edge, if you are a warrior, then you will know that living at your edge involves taking care of yourself in order that you can operate at your highest capacity. There is no point grinding and living at your edge, doing everything that you can do in order to give your gifts to the world if you are only going to burn out in a week’s time! This is not the way to become the strongest you.
The truth is that looking after yourself takes effort.

The trap that most people that begin on their journey towards their own edges fall into the trap of only grinding and working, or even only looking after yourself, because both require equal discipline and effort! I see this all the time.

To do both… now that is a challenge for the individual willing to life their life to the full. To make themselves as great as they can be. To give their flipping gifts fully – No gift left un-given. And this means that you have to cultivate you, otherwise you will run out of life in you. This is not ideal for anyone.

This is basic Yin and Yang stuff. There is a time for work, and a time for rest. Balance is key.

So if you do have a clear vision as to what you want, and are truly willing to condition yourself to give your fullest gifts in the moment, both sides of the spectrum will become clear. You will acquire an enhanced ability to discern. Right from wrong, worth from un-worth, strength from weakness.

You are capable of so much more than you think. You’ve got to be willing to feel the fear, and feel the pain and do it anyway. When you have a higher purpose that is so much more important than a little sweat and tears, that challenge is what makes it so exciting. And in that moment, that’s what makes you great.

Once you know your edge, if you want to be a truly exeptional individual, then you should live just beyond your edge… try it. Watch the reality of your existence expand every day until you begin to realise your true potential.

“And so you touch this limit, something happens and you suddenly can go a little bit further. With your mind power, your determination, your instinct, and the experience as well, you can fly very high.” -Ayrton Senna 


-Ben

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Why YOU Should Meditate.

Walking down the road today from the train station to a cafe down the road. I counted about 40-50 thoughts roughly. That was a 10 minute journey.

The majority of people have the same problem. To focus on one thing is almost impossible, because their processing power is all over the place, they are trying to download 50 files at once on 4G.

In fact most people think even more than this! It’s a scientific fact that humans can only think consciously about one thing at a time. Try it: Think about an image of empire state building and the shape of England at the same time….

A quick google search shows that: “…When we have between 50,000-70,000 thoughts per day, this means between 35 and 48 thoughts per minute per person.”

Well NO WONDER we can’t get anything done!

When’s the last time you just sat in silence for 10 minutes and watched your thoughts?

My Martial Arts teacher likened the flow of thoughts to a train station. The station is the mind, the train is the thought, and the little person standing on the platform is the awareness. Most people’s stations are flipping Waterloo at rush-hour.

Meditation is the practice of observing the trains come and go as they will, completely out of your control. They they come and go, come and go, come and go, until eventually the flow of trains begins to slow down. Instead of a constant flow of trains rushing by urgently, there seems to be silence in between the passings by, and there is simply emptiness until another slowly potters through. Able to fully feel the breeze on your face and the smell of fresh leaves on the wind, this train comes past, and you watch it… then it passes, and again all is quiet.

Most people know that meditation is good for them. However thoughts are terrified at the idea of not being in control. Thoughts will come and say “To sit in silence?! A waste of time! Stupid!” And so we are enslaved by our thoughts, the master becomes mastered by his tools.

The big barrier that stops people from actually practicing is the trust in the silence…

In order for more people to cultivate trust in the consistent practice meditation, it would be helpful to understand the place from which all of our thoughts come. Because you don’t chose your thoughts… your thought come to you. Where from?

The stillness. This stillness is a gift to you. From stillness one can see clearly, and from from emptiness one can discern.

Meditation is about cultivating your stillness. It is about nourishing your awareness through the practice of prolonged attention to your stillness. By cultivating your awareness in the stillness, you are more able to see clearly that which is not still, increasing your presence, and fundamentally increasing your sensitivity and thus your vitality.

When one meditates, it is not that nothing is going on, it is that SO much is going on, in the doing of nothing. Doing in no-doing, by no-doing; Doing the no-doing.

One must give the silence it’s due, listen to it’s voice, if one is to reap the gifts of discernment. To listen to both yin and yang, the whole world becomes larger.

Turn the blur into a piece of artwork, and see and touch every little piece of it as you runs your awareness over it.

Good place to start in regards to meditation:

  1. Sit quietly, ideally somewhere quite (it doesn’t matter, but does allow for further unguardedness) and where you will not be disturbed.

2. As you allow the breath to pass through you – no pulling in of air but simply allowing it to fill and empty itself through you – pay attention to your nose. Simply place your awareness on it and watch it.

3. Your attention will likely stray to thoughts, and that is fine, no matter, just again place your attention on your nose. That was a repetition.

4. Continue to bring your attention into focus from the straying into thoughts and distractions. When you feel proficient at focusing on your nose, now you may bring your awareness to rest on your entire face. Not trying to control anything, simply resting your awareness on it, relaxing, and allowing whatever comes to come and go. Watch thoughts and feelings as they come and go. If a particularly potent one comes along that feels urgent, simply take a mental note for later and continue the practice, watch it pass.

5. Again, when you feel proficient, bring your awareness to rest on a larger entity, your entire body. Again, noticing thoughts and feelings as they come and go, bringing your awareness back when it strays, being relaxed and impartial… simply watching.

Now those are the principles.

These principles can be applied as you will. You can do this while walking, or washing dishes, anything, just remember it is about relaxation, impartial watching, and cultivating awareness through guiding your focus back to stillness.

When you feel confident at meditating in this way, try bringing your awareness back into itself. Who is watching the thoughts and feelings? Watch the watcher. See what you find.

“We cling to our own point of view, as though everything depended on it. Yet our opinions have no permanence; like autumn and winter, they gradually pass away.” -Chuang Tzu


-Ben

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Taking Charge of How You Feel.

When you feel something strongly, are you the type of person who meet it with head on with their chest up and their eyes wide open, or do you dwell? Can you stand confrontation? Really the question is: Can you stand your ground?!

Don’t let ANYONE rip you out of your state of positivity. In your heart you know your purpose in life. You know that you control the way that you feel. If one day you chose to feel sad and depressed, and you chose not to do anything about it, then that’s fine, but that is a CHOICE.

You cannot share your gifts with others if you are not in charge of your own state. They are influencing you, not the other way around. The surest man* in the room is the most influential, and by being in charge of how you feel, and being dead set on your purpose, you are being the most sure man in the room, and NOBODY can take that away from you. They may think they can, but then that is down to you… do you believe them?

To take control of your state, you need to brainwash yourself. By brainwashing yourself you can manifest your own reality. This takes a clear vision, a clear sense of purpose, and an open mind that is ready to feel uncomfortable and meet life head on.

To control your state, you need to know what works for you. What makes you feel good, what makes you feel bad? You need tools. These tools are inside of you. They are mental, physical and physiological. These tools are utilised in order to promote states of flow, and rectify blockages. You need to know when it is necessary to use a tool, and how to stay in the moment with whatever you are doing.

In order for any progression in life to be effective, first and foremost one needs to learn how to take control of their focus. This is the first step towards self ownership.

Once you have taken ownership your focus, now you decide what to focus on. And what you focus on needs to be brought into manifestation through the body (This is why it is very important to be physically and emotional motile). Most people have energetic barriers in their body that disallow them from expressing themselves to their full capacity. This stops them from being able to manifest their inner life as a reality.

In order to break free of this physical bondage, I would refer you to this resource as a starting point. However, the body is the mind and the mind is the body, and if you can get them operating on the same level emotionally, then you will find that you are able to encourage postural and physical change purely through physiological means. Environmental factors encourage this, but in effect you are the one that is making the change.

All of this starts in one place: What you focus on DRAMATICALLY effects how you feel.

Here are some resources that I have written in order for you to channel your focus in the most empowering ways:

Incantations:

Finding Purpose

Reading

Sexual dynamics/Relationships


-Ben

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How Music Can Bring People UP

Always I’ve had a back and forth between my artistic development, and my own development. Always it seemed to be a choice… Music or Self…

This is a false dichotomy. It’s taken me so many years to realise that one can be an artist and also allow his own self-development to be his first and foremost priority.

Music is culture. 

Culture is all about bringing other people up. I don’t care what anyone else says. Whether it is intentional or misled, cultures are created as a way of sharing and empowering one another. Music is no exception.

The cliches and stereotypes regarding the ‘popular’ music industry has tainted it’s image to it’s very core. I’d been misled in regards to what it’s all about, even though both of my parents flipping work in the wider music industry.

For instance: Due to bad experiences with prescription drugs in my teens, I tend to try and avoid all drugs, even mere Ibuprofen. There have been many times when I have considered not entering the music industry and pursuing that career path purely because I was led to believe that all musicians are into drugs, and that they took part in a culture of self-destruction. I didn’t want to be part of that.

This was pure ignorance on my behalf, and even though this is not uncommon, this is FAR from the case for the majority, and I can only take responsibility for my former views, regardless of how much of this belief was actually perpetuated by myself.

now look back at those times and feel that I should have known that the feelings that I got when I listened to music; the inspiration, the feeling of empowerment and excitement the feeling of possiblity; That in and of itself was what it was what it was all about. I wanted to give people the feeling that I felt when I listened to my favourite artists. I wanted to touch people in the way that music has touched me, to my very core.

The arts are CULTS. Cults are vehicles for education and empowerment… If wielded correctly.

Now: Here’s a potent point by my main man Abraham Lincoln:

“Nearly all men can stand the test of adversity, but if you really want to test a man’s character, give him power.”

Music at it’s core is about bringing other people up. And this is what musicians do. They pour their heart out in order that others are not alone. They share their deepest darkest secrets, as does any artist, giving you their hearts on a plate for you to share and stand with, or to move on without.

It’s not about what you do, it’s about who you are. And what you do is an expression of those gifts; How do you give your gifts?

Here’s another I found while searching for the former. I couldn’t leave it out:

“To ease another’s heartache is to forget one’s own.” -Abraham Lincoln


-Ben

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Be a Madman for Your Purpose.

All of us should give our gifts in this lifetime. This is it; are you seizing the moment? Do you have FIRE in your belly? Are you passionate about your life and your purpose?

What is your meaning?

We are all here to be challenged… can you grow in the face of adversity? This is the game.

Most people don’t live in alignment, and don’t give their utmost gifts because they are scared. Fear ties them down. And on your inspired journey, you will feel fear. To deny yourself of fear is to deny yourself of your purpose.

If you are to give your gifts, then you must feel your fear and do it anyway. You must meet your fears with equal energy and kiss them, look them in the eye, punch them in the face if need be! Then you continue onwards towards your purpose, fulfilling your meaning…

This is to ‘Eat your Shadows’. Through eating your shadows, you become twice the Man or Woman that you once were. And it was already inside of you.

You’ve gotta feel it baby. Enjoy the challenge. When you know why, it becomes a play, and I am challenging you now. If you do not know what it is, then Find your purpose.

Find it inside of YOU.

You do not need a purpose that is going to be your be all and end all purpose, but you need a purpose for now. If you know something that makes you passionate, but it doesn’t seem to be right when you think about it. Look: THAT is your purpose now. Your purpose may change over time. To quote Shrek “purposes are like onions, they have layers.”  The thing that excites you, that fills you with energy; you must give 100% to this. The rest will unravel and reveal itself to you over time throughout this process, layer by layer and each one will be more fulfilling, and fill you more and more with purpose.


People of integrity live in alignment with their life’s purpose.

If you are to be fulfilled in your purpose. You must live in alignment with your purpose. Otherwise you are sacrificing your integrity.

If you are to live in alignment with your life’s purpose, you must be constantly asking yourself: “Is what I am doing now contributing to me giving my gifts in this world? Is it contributing to the fulfilment of my life’s purpose?”.

If you cannot answer these questions with a clear “yes” then you are probably sacrificing your some of your integrity, because it is probably not in alignment with your purpose.

Those of us who are giving our gifts know that in the giving of your gifts, every single moment is the feeling of the fulfilment in life, in and of itself. These are the same people who forget to eat because they are so absorbed with there purpose, it becomes them, they become fuelled with the desire to make change, to make their mark, to penetrate the world with their legacy.

You know someone in your life who is doing something that you used to do. You might have even just seen them in the street as you were passing by, or they might be a close family member or a lover. They are doing something that you did that was to your detriment. And you see their pain under the surface, under the mask of rock or porcelain smiles.

You want to tell them and show them that this isn’t the way. You feel sorry for them, but you know that you can’t tell them to change. You can’t tell them to do things differently, because you know where they are coming from. You want to help but you feel like you can’t. This is what you can do:

BE the change. Be an example of a better way. Be a madman for your purpose. Show them that they are not alone; because we are all mad for that which is closest to our heart. Show people that they can be the person that they truly want to be, and that really, they truly are this person; if only they say yes to life and all it’s pain and pleasures.

If you don’t do it for you, do it for them.

And just remember, that same pain that caused you so much grief, it made you the person that you are today. It is the pleasure in your heart when you see something beautiful. It is the love in your smile, it is the joy and excitement in your stomach.

Live in alignment with your purpose. Give your gift…

Ponder this:

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

-Ben

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Last Ralph Waldo Emerson quote for a while… I promise… *wink*

How to get out of a Rut!

We all want to be our best selves, we all want to live our best lives.

Yet so few of us actually do so! Bucket loads of potential is wasted every day by plethoras of people thinking about what could have been done, or why it cannot be done now; Most people do this. That is why most people are NOT their best selves.

I say this only as someone who has partaken in negative thinking incessantly for the vast majority of my life. SO much energy wasted on creating negative patterns of thinking which led to negative actions and behaviour, which led to me feeling… you guessed it, like a pile of s***.

I call this pattern a rut. You’ve heard the saying. ‘Being stuck in a rut‘. Never did I think about what this really means.

Litterally: A rut is a vehicle track created by repeating the same path over and over and over, so much so that it becomes the only easy path to it’s end once a vehicle is in it.

To get out of a rut, one has to get out of the vehicle that they are travelling in, take a good look around, decide he’s had enough, and climb the hell out of there. To get out of a rut, one needs to remove HIMSELF from the rut, and take a NEW path. This involves leaving the well trodden trail behind. This involves going your own way: putting YOUR purpose FIRST.

Be your own vehicle for change.

Now if you feel like you are stuck in a rut, which most of us are to some degree. Here is what I would offer you:


STOP what you are doing now. I want you to look at the thoughts that come up for yourself. Are they positive, are they negative? Are they conducive to LOVE and CREATION? and most importantly, DO THEY SUPPORT YOU?

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YOU first. If you want to grow, you must prioritise your purpose on this earth before all else. And once you begin to say yes to this, your purpose will come to you, oh yes it will, and you will float up the fruits of the tree of life and receive the blessings from your toil.

But this ain’t going to be easy, this is why anyone rarely does it. They stay in the rut, and moan about being in a rut to themselves. I’ve done it too. A lot.

To face your fears is to ‘kiss your shadows’ and become intimate with that which causes you pain. This is a part of life… and to live fully is oh so full of life.

For those of you in a rut. Who do you need to be in order to share your gift with the world? Who do you need to be in order to fulfil your true purpose in life? Only you can know. One can only ask for guidance in return for the expression of your gifts.

To finish, following my former post, another quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson:

‘To be great is to be misunderstood.’

Be great. Be true. Be you.

P.S. If you have any interesting resources that you’d like to share, send them over! I’m always looking for new insight and inspiration.

Your friend,

Ben


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