Taking Charge of How You Feel.

When you feel something strongly, are you the type of person who meet it with head on with their chest up and their eyes wide open, or do you dwell? Can you stand confrontation? Really the question is: Can you stand your ground?!

Don’t let ANYONE rip you out of your state of positivity. In your heart you know your purpose in life. You know that you control the way that you feel. If one day you chose to feel sad and depressed, and you chose not to do anything about it, then that’s fine, but that is a CHOICE.

You cannot share your gifts with others if you are not in charge of your own state. They are influencing you, not the other way around. The surest man* in the room is the most influential, and by being in charge of how you feel, and being dead set on your purpose, you are being the most sure man in the room, and NOBODY can take that away from you. They may think they can, but then that is down to you… do you believe them?

To take control of your state, you need to brainwash yourself. By brainwashing yourself you can manifest your own reality. This takes a clear vision, a clear sense of purpose, and an open mind that is ready to feel uncomfortable and meet life head on.

To control your state, you need to know what works for you. What makes you feel good, what makes you feel bad? You need tools. These tools are inside of you. They are mental, physical and physiological. These tools are utilised in order to promote states of flow, and rectify blockages. You need to know when it is necessary to use a tool, and how to stay in the moment with whatever you are doing.

In order for any progression in life to be effective, first and foremost one needs to learn how to take control of their focus. This is the first step towards self ownership.

Once you have taken ownership your focus, now you decide what to focus on. And what you focus on needs to be brought into manifestation through the body (This is why it is very important to be physically and emotional motile). Most people have energetic barriers in their body that disallow them from expressing themselves to their full capacity. This stops them from being able to manifest their inner life as a reality.

In order to break free of this physical bondage, I would refer you to this resource as a starting point. However, the body is the mind and the mind is the body, and if you can get them operating on the same level emotionally, then you will find that you are able to encourage postural and physical change purely through physiological means. Environmental factors encourage this, but in effect you are the one that is making the change.

All of this starts in one place: What you focus on DRAMATICALLY effects how you feel.

Here are some resources that I have written in order for you to channel your focus in the most empowering ways:

Incantations:

Finding Purpose

Reading

Sexual dynamics/Relationships


-Ben

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How Music Can Bring People UP

Always I’ve had a back and forth between my artistic development, and my own development. Always it seemed to be a choice… Music or Self…

This is a false dichotomy. It’s taken me so many years to realise that one can be an artist and also allow his own self-development to be his first and foremost priority.

Music is culture. 

Culture is all about bringing other people up. I don’t care what anyone else says. Whether it is intentional or misled, cultures are created as a way of sharing and empowering one another. Music is no exception.

The cliches and stereotypes regarding the ‘popular’ music industry has tainted it’s image to it’s very core. I’d been misled in regards to what it’s all about, even though both of my parents flipping work in the wider music industry.

For instance: Due to bad experiences with prescription drugs in my teens, I tend to try and avoid all drugs, even mere Ibuprofen. There have been many times when I have considered not entering the music industry and pursuing that career path purely because I was led to believe that all musicians are into drugs, and that they took part in a culture of self-destruction. I didn’t want to be part of that.

This was pure ignorance on my behalf, and even though this is not uncommon, this is FAR from the case for the majority, and I can only take responsibility for my former views, regardless of how much of this belief was actually perpetuated by myself.

now look back at those times and feel that I should have known that the feelings that I got when I listened to music; the inspiration, the feeling of empowerment and excitement the feeling of possiblity; That in and of itself was what it was what it was all about. I wanted to give people the feeling that I felt when I listened to my favourite artists. I wanted to touch people in the way that music has touched me, to my very core.

The arts are CULTS. Cults are vehicles for education and empowerment… If wielded correctly.

Now: Here’s a potent point by my main man Abraham Lincoln:

“Nearly all men can stand the test of adversity, but if you really want to test a man’s character, give him power.”

Music at it’s core is about bringing other people up. And this is what musicians do. They pour their heart out in order that others are not alone. They share their deepest darkest secrets, as does any artist, giving you their hearts on a plate for you to share and stand with, or to move on without.

It’s not about what you do, it’s about who you are. And what you do is an expression of those gifts; How do you give your gifts?

Here’s another I found while searching for the former. I couldn’t leave it out:

“To ease another’s heartache is to forget one’s own.” -Abraham Lincoln


-Ben

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Be a Madman for Your Purpose.

All of us should give our gifts in this lifetime. This is it; are you seizing the moment? Do you have FIRE in your belly? Are you passionate about your life and your purpose?

What is your meaning?

We are all here to be challenged… can you grow in the face of adversity? This is the game.

Most people don’t live in alignment, and don’t give their utmost gifts because they are scared. Fear ties them down. And on your inspired journey, you will feel fear. To deny yourself of fear is to deny yourself of your purpose.

If you are to give your gifts, then you must feel your fear and do it anyway. You must meet your fears with equal energy and kiss them, look them in the eye, punch them in the face if need be! Then you continue onwards towards your purpose, fulfilling your meaning…

This is to ‘Eat your Shadows’. Through eating your shadows, you become twice the Man or Woman that you once were. And it was already inside of you.

You’ve gotta feel it baby. Enjoy the challenge. When you know why, it becomes a play, and I am challenging you now. If you do not know what it is, then Find your purpose.

Find it inside of YOU.

You do not need a purpose that is going to be your be all and end all purpose, but you need a purpose for now. If you know something that makes you passionate, but it doesn’t seem to be right when you think about it. Look: THAT is your purpose now. Your purpose may change over time. To quote Shrek “purposes are like onions, they have layers.”  The thing that excites you, that fills you with energy; you must give 100% to this. The rest will unravel and reveal itself to you over time throughout this process, layer by layer and each one will be more fulfilling, and fill you more and more with purpose.


People of integrity live in alignment with their life’s purpose.

If you are to be fulfilled in your purpose. You must live in alignment with your purpose. Otherwise you are sacrificing your integrity.

If you are to live in alignment with your life’s purpose, you must be constantly asking yourself: “Is what I am doing now contributing to me giving my gifts in this world? Is it contributing to the fulfilment of my life’s purpose?”.

If you cannot answer these questions with a clear “yes” then you are probably sacrificing your some of your integrity, because it is probably not in alignment with your purpose.

Those of us who are giving our gifts know that in the giving of your gifts, every single moment is the feeling of the fulfilment in life, in and of itself. These are the same people who forget to eat because they are so absorbed with there purpose, it becomes them, they become fuelled with the desire to make change, to make their mark, to penetrate the world with their legacy.

You know someone in your life who is doing something that you used to do. You might have even just seen them in the street as you were passing by, or they might be a close family member or a lover. They are doing something that you did that was to your detriment. And you see their pain under the surface, under the mask of rock or porcelain smiles.

You want to tell them and show them that this isn’t the way. You feel sorry for them, but you know that you can’t tell them to change. You can’t tell them to do things differently, because you know where they are coming from. You want to help but you feel like you can’t. This is what you can do:

BE the change. Be an example of a better way. Be a madman for your purpose. Show them that they are not alone; because we are all mad for that which is closest to our heart. Show people that they can be the person that they truly want to be, and that really, they truly are this person; if only they say yes to life and all it’s pain and pleasures.

If you don’t do it for you, do it for them.

And just remember, that same pain that caused you so much grief, it made you the person that you are today. It is the pleasure in your heart when you see something beautiful. It is the love in your smile, it is the joy and excitement in your stomach.

Live in alignment with your purpose. Give your gift…

Ponder this:

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

-Ben

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Last Ralph Waldo Emerson quote for a while… I promise… *wink*

How to get out of a Rut!

We all want to be our best selves, we all want to live our best lives.

Yet so few of us actually do so! Bucket loads of potential is wasted every day by plethoras of people thinking about what could have been done, or why it cannot be done now; Most people do this. That is why most people are NOT their best selves.

I say this only as someone who has partaken in negative thinking incessantly for the vast majority of my life. SO much energy wasted on creating negative patterns of thinking which led to negative actions and behaviour, which led to me feeling… you guessed it, like a pile of s***.

I call this pattern a rut. You’ve heard the saying. ‘Being stuck in a rut‘. Never did I think about what this really means.

Litterally: A rut is a vehicle track created by repeating the same path over and over and over, so much so that it becomes the only easy path to it’s end once a vehicle is in it.

To get out of a rut, one has to get out of the vehicle that they are travelling in, take a good look around, decide he’s had enough, and climb the hell out of there. To get out of a rut, one needs to remove HIMSELF from the rut, and take a NEW path. This involves leaving the well trodden trail behind. This involves going your own way: putting YOUR purpose FIRST.

Be your own vehicle for change.

Now if you feel like you are stuck in a rut, which most of us are to some degree. Here is what I would offer you:


STOP what you are doing now. I want you to look at the thoughts that come up for yourself. Are they positive, are they negative? Are they conducive to LOVE and CREATION? and most importantly, DO THEY SUPPORT YOU?

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YOU first. If you want to grow, you must prioritise your purpose on this earth before all else. And once you begin to say yes to this, your purpose will come to you, oh yes it will, and you will float up the fruits of the tree of life and receive the blessings from your toil.

But this ain’t going to be easy, this is why anyone rarely does it. They stay in the rut, and moan about being in a rut to themselves. I’ve done it too. A lot.

To face your fears is to ‘kiss your shadows’ and become intimate with that which causes you pain. This is a part of life… and to live fully is oh so full of life.

For those of you in a rut. Who do you need to be in order to share your gift with the world? Who do you need to be in order to fulfil your true purpose in life? Only you can know. One can only ask for guidance in return for the expression of your gifts.

To finish, following my former post, another quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson:

‘To be great is to be misunderstood.’

Be great. Be true. Be you.

P.S. If you have any interesting resources that you’d like to share, send them over! I’m always looking for new insight and inspiration.

Your friend,

Ben


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How to Revitalise your Practice.

How should one practice?

It has always seemed like a mystery to me how some people seem to pick up an instrument and intuitively know how to methodically practice and progress themselves through levels of skill.

Maybe it’s my lack of formal education, but for me I have always just intuitively picked up things and played. That is to say, I progress on an improvisatory and creative level, but in regards to technique and formal repertoire, I have always largely lacked.

Discipline largely has a lot to do with success in the endeavour of learning any skill (or discipline). This begins before the practice session even begins: when am I going to practice, How long for, and what am I practicing? You need your game plan set in stone before you. You don’t necessarily have to follow it to a tee, but you need it there if you are going to progress skilfully.

Practice adds up, it really does. At times when I have sat down in a disciplined way to learn a skill, I have ALWAYS learned what I have practiced fully and with integrity.

However this discipline often teeters out within a couple of weeks of hard grind. It teeters out because it becomes largely a chore. The fire that got me started gets kindled out and I am left with the empty shell of my previous commitment. Just going through the motions leaves me feeling empty and unfulfilled.

Through some soul searching I thought I had found the key. It was that I was pushing too hard. So I did the intuitive thing and went in completely the other direction, becoming completely playful again. My lost love came flooding back. I began to ENJOY practicing again. Jesus had I missed THIS.

However… AGAIN there was a piece missing.

I was not making progress in the same way. My skills were becoming tighter within what I already knew, but I knew little. I was not GROWING and EXPANDING my boundaries. I felt like I was stuck in a rut, and I was. Stuck in a shell. A shell that needed to be broken out of in order to be born again.

SO.

I turned for help. I read and read and read and searched and asked. To no avail. People just intuitively knew, but nobody could explain where I was going wrong and HOW to rectify it.

UNTIL recently I came across a book that told me to follow my fire. To follow my fire was to aim for my deepest truth. I was set alight like a furnace. I had fire in my belly like never before, and I was ready to get out there and FIGHT for my convictions. Because I KNEW my deepest truth.

The reason that I was getting lost is that I had lost my VISION. My purpose, my reason for starting.

Suddenly, troubles with practice were a thing of the past. Tired grinds and constant pushing were mere memories, because now I had fire under my ass and it was alighting me to the moon.

It was clear that the problem was that I needed to direct this energy. Now I set a period of time every day to practice. I write a list using the method from THIS Youtube video.

And I get it done. In fact I estimate that I get around about 6-7x more done than I used to, and I’m barely having to push myself. I’m walking on air with the wind behind me.

Takeaway:

If you are having trouble practicing or finding motivation to do so:

FIND your fire. You cannot force it in any direction. You are either avoiding your inspiration or you are saying YES to it, in which case you know what to do. Any artist knows that you don’t chose what to be inspired about, inspiration choses YOU… you’ve just got to say yes to life. And to say yes to life is to say yes to fear and yes to the possibility of pain.

Let me leave you with this quote to ponder over, by the great man himself, Ralph Waldo Emerson:

‘Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.’

Step up. Feed your soul.

Yours,

Ben


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Incantations have warped my understanding of reality.

Incantations are a bullsh*t I always thought… well not quite.

I had experimented with Incantations in the past, and not to much avail. There was always a moment of catharsis, and what I thought was false confidence, at the time. I did persist with them for a week or three, but I didn’t really believe in what I was doing and as such came to yield no fruits from my labours.

Above all, the trouble with Incantations is if you do not EMBODY them, then they are merely words. When they are merely words, they are merely affirmations. A squeally yoga mum telling herself that she is a strong indendent woman, but not necessarily actually EMBODYING this statement. This is largely where I went wrong. And this is most people go wrong. We all know that words can take on a different meaning hourly depending on our feelings that day. It is not the words, it is what the words are pointing to, and the experience that they are rooting to. I like a quote by the philosopher Alan Watts. ‘…Like the finger pointing to the moon, yet instead of seeing the moon, most people suck on the finger.’

Incantations are not just words. Incantations are the complete package. To yield results, one needs to anchor these words in experience.

While reading Elliot Hulse’s ‘Non Jobs Revolution’ (a fantastic read which I highly recommend), I came across his version of Incantations. For me, this is the most effective way to go about Incantations, and I can speak from experience when I say, it works!


Here’s how it works:

1.  Firstly going back in your mind to an experience that made you feel like you were walking on air, elated, powerful. Whatever is in line with the state that the Incantation is pointing towards. Now you play the video of the experience over in your head, being there, hearing the sounds, seeing the sights, tasting the air.

2.  Feelings are going to come up at this point. Feel them. You might smile or laugh, be there now. Don’t cling to them, but let them arise within you like a volcano. You’ve got FIRE in your belly baby…

3.  Now you must speak your affirmation with conviction. One Incantation that I have chosen, and that has made a MASSIVE psychological difference to me is ‘I am Limitless‘. Say it as if you flipping mean it… and do flipping MEAN IT.

4.  Now anchor these emotions into your body with a gesture. I like to fist pump my arms in front of me as if I am about to get into a championship ring and get it done.

Now you have affirmed yourself.

You can use multiple affirmations. Any time that you are feeling unsure of yourself. AFFIRM yourself. Stand firmly in your own ground and be the person that you want to become.

This technique is completely parallel with my own experience with an acting Method that i used to train in called ‘The Meisner Technique’. It is a method acting tool that allows you to get into the emotional state of the character that you are going to become for the performance. It worked brilliantly.

Life is a also performance… You can be the leading man/woman, or you can be the understudy.

Note:

Using affirmations is a practice. for real: bold, italic, AND underlined.

In order to yield results you must practice them consistently. It is going to feel strange at first and this is normal. One doesn’t build a beach body from a ‘dad bod’ (hate that term) over night, and you’re not going to become someone completely new overnight either.

Take this technique and any time that you catch yourself falling into a pattern of negative thinking, eg: “I don’t know” “I can’t do it” “I literally have no friends”, affirm yourself. Give your negative thinking a metaphorical kick in the ass, meet it with your chest up and head-butt it in the face by replacing it with thinking patterns that will support your growth, support your change into a new person, and support YOU.

Incantations are yielding results for me that I never thought possible. They have changed the way that I look at myself. I have come to realise through affirmations that I manifest my own reality. I create my thoughts, and my thoughts create me.

I hope this technique can help some of you on your own paths.

There is a great quote by the Taoist sage Lao Tzu:

“Watch your thoughts, they become words

Watch your words, they become actions

Watch your actions, they become habits

Watch your habits, they become character

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”


-Ben

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